Is this your favourite game? The Game of Blame.
- Are you blaming everyone for how it’s turning out NOT the way you hoped?
- Are you blaming others for you not making it a success?
- Are you saying, ‘It’s not my fault!’
The honest answer is probably ‘Yes!’ and I know I’ve made so many excuses for things not going my way, I’ve lost count of how pathetic and ridiculous some of them have been over the years. I’m not proud of the drivel that has, at times, come out of my mouth.
I started playing the game early
Before I set up in business for myself, I was working in the corporate world and yet, my dream was to be self-employed. But here’s the thing, I thought I was giving myself bona fide reasons for it to NEVER happen.
The die had been cast and I was off. Playing the Game of Blame every single day for years!
My rules, excuses and reasons were endless and went something like this:
- I didn’t have the time to re-train and learn new skills
- I couldn’t afford it
- I wouldn’t be good enough
- I was too old (at 27 – I kid you not!!)
So Many Reasons and Excuses
I constantly searched out reasons why I shouldn’t do it and once you tell yourself ‘because…’ you’re heading face to face with yet another excuse.
However, it wasn’t until nearly 20 years had passed that I finally took responsibility for myself. Oh crikey, my repertoire of excuses was blossoming- all those years of practice had made a true Pro at the Game of Blame. If it was ever an Olympic sport, I’d be a gold medal winner for sure.
But I took responsibility, I grew a pair, I stepped up.
I have days the rule book is fluttered in front of me, we all do, now I can decide to play again or not.
What about you?
Are you now ready to stop playing the Game of Blame?
1. Recognise where you are shirking your responsibility and using the rule book from The Game of Blame
You may need to delve a bit deeper, ask yourself where are you laying blame or justification and why are you playing the blame game and justifying what isn’t going right?
It may be there is something deeper going on.
Identify what that is. Fear, doubt, worry?
What are you afraid of?
2. Identify the consequences of playing the Game of Blame
Make them visible. Write them down. Type them out and read them out loud.
You can begin to see the impact on your business and even your personal life.
You can begin to recognise what you are holding yourself back from.
3. Identify what you could achieve if you stopped playing the Game of Blame right now
This opens up a whole new world of possibility for you and your business. Now, that has to feel good right?
You, should you decide to, can achieve all of that.
4. Identify what you need to do to take responsibility
Create a plan on what your next steps are going to be to step up and get yourself out there with a bucket load of responsibility and unstoppable confidence for your own actions.
5. Take Action
No point in you sitting there identifying and writing away, getting all excited about the prospect of what taking responsibility and removing blame and justification can do for you and your business.
Put the board and the dice away – stop the game!
Action is the only way it will happen so step away from the game.
If you need support or help to make it happen, then contact those people. No excuses!
Do it sooner rather than later because I’m guessing you’ve already wasted enough of your precious and valuable time already.
How to Win the Game of Blame
It will take time but you can start today! Today is the day you take responsibility for what you are striving towards for you, your life and your business. No-one else – YOU!
And yes, stuff happens we could all share our stories of woe and our stories of ‘that was unfair’ but you can decide to become victor or victim.
I’d love to hear how you’ve played Your ‘Game of Blame’.
Leave your comments below.